This almost feels like an AA meeting
I'm Jeff, and I am a freelance writer and game designer, when I have the time and energy to do it.
I am a full time father, husband, and manager for an international inventory company. I have to agree with the feelings and experiences that others have expressed here, the public at large just doesn't understand that people can enjoy and make money from a game or even use their own imagination vs. sitting like an oatmeal-brained l33t zombie in front of colorful and flashy video pixels. But, I'm going to add my own little story anyway.
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It was the last GenCon in Milwaukee, WI. I had just completed running a demo for Thunderhead Games'
Bluffside: City on the Edge setting. One of the players follows me outside for my ritual lung degradation and asks me, "so, you write game books?"
"Sure do."
"How long have you been writing?"
"About a year-and-a-half, but I have gotten quite a few titles under my belt in that time."
"Wow! I wish I could be a writer, but I just don't know what to do."
"Being a writer is easy, just ask anyone of us here and I'm sure you'll hear the same things over and over again."
"Can I buy you dinner?"
Long pause, my cigarette nearly dropping out of my mouth.
"It's my treat. I would love to hear about how to get into game writing. I know this great little place just a few blocks from here."
"Sure, why not. I have to be back in about two hours, though... for the Ennie awards. Two books I wrote are up for awards."
"Oh, okay." We start walking down the street.
I looked at him sideways while we walked, I rarely pay very close attention to what a person's name is at a convention (too many gamers all coming at me at once). I usually just associate the person with character they play at my table. And now I was wracking my brain to figure out this guy's name. "What was your name again? Sorry, terrible with names."
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It was a surreal experience, and just the first of many "invitations" for various gamer sponsored events or gifts (I once got a coffee cup made completely out of duct tape from a young lady who wore nothing but a see-through chainmail shirt, a thong, and a cloak... in February!!!) Matter of fact, there is a person on this board, somewhere, that surprised the crap out of me at GenCon 2004 by coming over to the Goodman Games' booth during one of my signings and request that I sign HIM!!!
How do non-gamers relate to me?
They laugh and say, "what a herb! You write games? At your age?" Insert little laugh and a painful pause, then, "oh well, I'm going to go play
Guitar Hero (or
Animal Crossing, depending on person and their personality)."
Or the authority figures in my life (aka - the folks), "when will you see that these little games of yours will never amount to anything. You are so creative, why not write a detective novel. You loved the Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew when you were growing up...." and off to the races for the rest of the "what you liked to read when you were little" speech for the next half-hour. Gotta love the holiday season.
Explaining RPGs? Nope, don't really have to any more. Most everyone knows what roleplaying is, either from video games or the days of bad RPG press. I find that the rare times I do have to explain, those are people who end up gaming with me.
Though, I'm spending a good deal of my "free time" lately inducting my 7-yo son into gaming and creative writing (he's written and published 2 books in the last year). He calls himself a "geek" and a "nerd" (we don't find those words offensive, but funny). His friends are getting interested too, but they can't get past the lack of a controller or video screen to stare at (and some of them actually smell like they are burning a greasy pudding when they attempt to think).
We'll see what the new generation has in store for gaming.
Happy Holidays!!!!